So a lot of the parents that I work with come to me because they’ve been cut off by an adult child or a teenager after divorce. They want to know, What do I say And the first thing that you have to do is really try to make it safe for your child to talk to your. It’s the case of the divorce and the case of Parental Alienation Syndrome where your ex is actually poisoning your child against you. It’s important that you not do anything to reinforce that.
So you don’t want to talk about your ex in any kind of a negative way, but to talk to them in an as affectionate way as possible, even though you may have to fake it. You want to remember that their love for their mother or their father, your ex, is part of the ways that they love themselves. So if you’re poisoning them about their mother or their father, you’re poisoning them about themselves. This is crucial to remember. So many parents feel like they’re going to get back at their exes by getting mad at the kid through the ex and you’re just.
Hurting your child. Not only are you hurting your child, you’re hurting your relationship to the child. You’re ruining your credibility with that child by making them feel like you care more about yourself than you do about them. They need to love that parent no matter how terribly that parent has behaved. So that’s the case of Parental Alienation Syndrome. You want to be affectionate, interested, empathic, hear their complaints. If the kids says, Well, why didn’t ever pay child support Or why were you always so mean to dad If there’s.
Handling Parental Alienation Syndrome Tips and Advice