Parental Alienation Syndrome Vs Parental Alienation
I’m Dr. Les Linet and I hope to help you understand psychiatric problems alienation. As difficult as it may be for many to believe alienating parents do not really love their children a primary goal is basically to destroy the targeted paired as one alienating parent said to the soon to be divorced targeted parents you’re going to die and no one will even come to your grave. I have attended support groups. The pain experienced by target parents in the room is palpable years later and long after the divorce is finalized.
The wreckage wrought by parental alienation continues alienated children grow up but the damage carries forward often alienated children will become adult children who remain alienated from their targeted parent for decades. The damaging effects that parental alienation on children can include low self esteem lack of trust depression, substance abuse, and addiction. and selfhatred as they identify with the hated targeted parent who is after all their own parent. and of whom they are a part. in addition some adult children of parental alienation go on to marry alienators or alternatively remain fearful of marrying.
Or having their own children because they fear their spouse could turn the children against them too. While not forgetting the children let us also not forget the loving targeted parents who can suffer for years and even decades from unwarranted estrangement from their children. Targeted parents need help in managing the alienation both for themselves and on behalf of helping their children. The targeted parent is often the more capable and loving parent since the alienating parent harms and uses the children as mere objects with which to hurt the targeted parent. Alienated children suffer from low selfestee.
PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME Alienating parents do not really love their children
When the alienating parent convinces them that their targeted parent does not really love them. Alienating parents harm their own children as collateral damage in a single minded offensive against the targeted parent. It is difficult for many people to believe that an alienating parent does not love his or her child Alienators con others including the children themselves into believing that they care about the children and are only looking at the children’s best interests. But this is a fraud. In reality alienators treat their children as possessions. Alienating parents tend to be narcissistic.
Selfcentered and sociopathic lacking moral conscience. They experience a significant narcissistic blow with the failure the marriage and they feel entitled to absolutely destroy the child’s relationship with the other parent. To accomplish this they may essentially assume total control over their child. They may appear to love their children but this is I cheat and a deception. To the alienator the children are mere possessions much like a beloved teddy bear. If Teddy were to come to life and actually assert himself, the alienator might toss Teddy into the closet.
Alienators are unable to see the child As separate from themselves. Possession is not love Truly loving parents don’t need to do a parentectomy on their child assuming that no actual abuse has taking place. But alienators feel entitled to lie and dupe their own children. Narcissistic alienating parents presume that they have special entitlement As sociopaths, they are unable to experience empathy or compassion for others. They are unable to appreciate another person’s point of view including that of the child In spite the admonition from judges and mental health professionals.