Hello, my name is Brian Galbraith and I’mthe owner of Galbraith Family Law. We’re a law firm of family law lawyers located inBarrie, Orillia and Newmarket. How does a father get custody of his children? Now, there’sa myth out there that fathers never get custody of their children. This is based on the historicfact that, traditionally, mothers were primarily responsible for the care of children and fatherswere the bread winners. So it made sense, in those days, that thecourt would order custody to the mother since she was the one primarily looking after thechildren anyway. It was in the children’s best interested to be with their mother. Nowadays,both mothers and fathers usually participate
in the care giving and in earning the incomefor the family. As a result the Ontario courts are more inclined to order an equal time sharingregime for the children. If a father wants custody of his children,he needs to prove that it’s in the best interest of the children that he has custody. A strongargument would be that he was traditionally the one responsible or primarily responsiblefor the care, and that he can continue to provide the care that the children want anddeserve. Custody battles are often very nasty. They can take many months and even years toresolve and cost thousands of dollars in legal fees. The children often suffer when there’sa custody battle between their parents. As
a result we prefer to help our clients negotiatea settlement. One of the best processes to do that is calledcollaborative practice. That’s a process where the parties agree not to go to court and theywork with professionals to find a resolution to their petty issues and any other issuesthat they have to resolve related to the separation. It’s a very cost effective process and keepsthe power of decision making in the hands of the parents. Most importantly, it helpsprevent the children from being in the middle of a battle between mum and dad. If this tutorial’s been helpful, give it a thumpsup. And if you’d like to learn more information
or have one of our lawyers help you with yourcustody issues, please go to our website which is GalbraithFamilyLaw. You can book consultationswith one of our lawyers. We help clients with custody issues every day. We can help youtoo. Thank you.
Difficult Personalities in a Child Custody Case Los Angeles Child Custody Attorney David Pisarra
Hey Guys David Pisarra here with MensFamilyLaw .Have you got a personality disordered spouse? Is that what we’re dealing with in a a childcustody case? Listen up and let’s see what you’ve got. There’s three main problem personality typeswe deal with in divorce and child custody cases. There’s a manicdepressive and theykinda have an up down problem. they go from being really happy to really sad to reallyhappy to really sad. They’re not that big of a deal when it comes to child custody,then we’ve got the narcissistic. the narcissistic personality is somebody who its all aboutthem. No matter what you’re doing it’s about
how it affects them. No matter what you’resaying, it’s how they look. No matter what you’re doing, it’s how they’re going to feel.The third most dangerous one that we deal with is the borderline personality. This issomebody that looks at you and in the beginning part of your relationship you probably werethe prince charming, you probably were the best thing that ever happened. The most wonderfulboyfriend, the most fantastic husband. and along came a child and the focus shifted andwhen the focus shifted, you suddenly became worthless, useless, the worst thing ever,horrible, the meanest, most inconsiderate, thoughtless, terrible, negligent, incompetentparent of all time. That’s the borderline
personality. You’re going from one extremeto the other. You go from Oh My God you’re the best thing ever to, horrible horrendous,terrible parent. The problem that we deal with is, Narcissistic and Borderline personalitiescan’t really be cured. and they’re very difficult to deal with when we get into court becausethey’re usually very convincing. They’re very manipulative. They’re very good at makingthe judge feel like quot;Well they’re just the most concerned parent ever, and you clearlyare just a negligent human being.quot; So when we’re dealing with these as parties in a divorce,we frequently have to bring in a psychologist to try and explain what’s going on and weput each side through some testing to figure
out what’s really going on and with the personalitiesand who’s going to be the more stable and loving parent. And who’s really telling thetruth. Because oftentimes the really controlling manipulative person is able to spin thingsso that it looks like you are the one that’s wrong. Even though they are the ones who areat fault. I hope that gives you a sort of a brief overview of what we’re dealing withhere with the manic depressive personality, the narcissistic personality and the borderline.I’m not psychologist, so you probably gotta do some research on that but those are generallywhat we end up in family court, and those are the battles that we have to fight. Ifyou’ve got other questions, you want to talk
to me about it, feel free to take a look aroundthe website, check out the tutorials and the blogs and give me a call. And remember, acheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything. Take care.