How does adultery impact your separation or divorce in ontario? Hi, I’m Brian Galbraith. I’m the owner of Galbraith Family Law Professional Corporation. We’re a law firm of divorce lawyers with offices in Barrie, Orillia, and Newmarket. Adultery has a huge impact on marriages. Usually, marriages end as a result of adultery. If you are the victim of adultery, you may feel deeply hurt, angry, or humiliated. You may not feel you can trust your spouse and may not be able to trust anyone for a period of.
Time. your selfesteem may be deeply damaged. if you’re the one who committed adultery, you may be feeling guilty, regret your conduct, or just want this whole process behind you. It’s a very difficult time for everyone involved. In Ontario, from a legal point of view, adultery is not a factor to be considered when resolving the legal issues. It won’t be considered when determining the proper level of child support or spousal support, determining the division of property, or any equalization of property.
Adultery will not impact how custody and access arrangements or parenting plans are determined. We have what we call a nofault system in Ontario. This isn’t the case everywhere in the world, but this is the reality in Ontario. Of course, adultery may have a huge impact on how you feel and how you are able to negotiate the legal issues, but it’s not to be taken into consideration when determining custody, access, child support, spousal support, or issues related to property.
Voice of the Child of Divorce
Dear mom and dad, i know that you are hurting. i’m hurting, too. I feel and feed off your tension, fear and shock. Although I’m young and cannot express verbally what is happening in our lives, I’m still feeling the impact. My heart is broken every time I have to give up a parent. My sense of security is lost. Please don’t assume that I am resilient. Please don’t assume that my life will be exactly as it was and that I will continue to feel the same love from both of you. I am a human being just like you.
My needs are just like yours. I need love, attention, nurturing, stability, consistency, affection, understanding, patience and mostly to be wanted. When you fight over me or put me in the middle of your argument, you are sending me the message that winning with each other is more important than my life. I am learning from you that is better to be right than to be loved.
You are teaching me that i came from a person who is unlovable and wrong, and that I am somehow wrong, too. When you confide your hurt in my heart, you are storing up adult pain and robbing me of my childhood. You are taking away my belief that love is unconditional and replacing it with a message that tells me to become hard and not to love because I will get hurt and not be able to recover.
You may not understand this today, and i am so small that you are not thinking about my future, but you are putting me at a greater risk of getting a divorce myself. At times you are risking my safety to fill a void in your heart. My safety is your job. Without you and your protection I am unshielded from the world. This will manifest in irrational fears for me, because I will stay in a state of fight or flight for most of my life. Someday this initial shock will wear off, but how you choose to parent me through this crisis.