PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME Alienating parents do not really love their children
I’m Les Linet and I hope to help you understand psychiatric problems alienation. As difficult as it may be for many to believe alienating parents do not really love their children a primary goal is basically to destroy the targeted paired as one alienating parent said.
To the soon to be divorced targeted parents you’re going to die and no one will even come to your grave. I have attended support groups. The pain experienced by target parents in the room is palpable years later and long after the divorce is finalized. The wreckage wrought by parental alienation continues alienated children grow up but the damage.
Carries forward often alienated children will become adult children who remain alienated from their targeted parent for decades. The damaging effects that parental alienation on children can include low self esteem lack of trust depression, substance abuse, and addiction. and selfhatred as they identify with the hated targeted parent who is after all their own parent.
And of whom they are a part. in addition some adult children of parental alienation go on to marry alienators or alternatively remain fearful of marrying or having their own children because they fear their spouse could turn the children against them too. While not forgetting the children let us also not forget the loving targeted parents who can suffer for years and even decades.
From unwarranted estrangement from their children. Targeted parents need help in managing the alienation both for themselves and on behalf of helping their children. The targeted parent is often the more capable and loving parent since the alienating parent harms and uses the children as mere objects with which to hurt the targeted parent. Alienated children suffer from low selfestee when the alienating parent convinces them that their targeted parent does not really love them.
Alienating parents harm their own children as collateral damage in a single minded offensive against the targeted parent. It is difficult for many people to believe that an alienating parent does not love his or her child Alienators con others including the children themselves into believing that they care about the children and are only.
Looking at the children’s best interests. But this is a fraud. In reality alienators treat their children as possessions. Alienating parents tend to be narcissistic selfcentered and sociopathic lacking moral conscience. They experience a significant narcissistic blow with the failure the marriage and they feel entitled to absolutely destroy the child’s relationship with the other parent. To accomplish this they may essentially assume.
Handling Parental Alienation Syndrome Tips and Advice
So a lot of the parents that I work with come to me because they’ve been cut off by an adult child or a teenager after divorce. They want to know, quot;What do I say?quot; And the first thing that you have to do is really try to make it safe for your child to talk to your. It’s the case of the divorce and the case of Parental Alienation Syndrome where your ex is actually poisoning your child against you. It’s important that you not do anything to reinforce that. So you don’t want to talk about your ex in any kind of a negative way, but to talk to them in an as affectionate way as possible, even though you may have to fake it. You want to remember that their love for their mother or their father, your ex, is part of the ways.
That they love themselves. So if you’re poisoning them about their mother or their father, you’re poisoning them about themselves. This is crucial to remember. So many parents feel like they’re going to get back at their exes by getting mad at the kid through the ex and you’re just hurting your child. Not only are you hurting your child, you’re hurting your relationship to the child. You’re ruining your credibility with that child by making them feel like you care more about yourself than you do about them. They need to love that parent no matter how terribly that parent has behaved. So that’s the case of Parental Alienation Syndrome. You want to be affectionate, interested, empathic, hear their complaints. If the kids says, quot;Well,.
Why didn’t ever pay child support? Or why were you always so mean to dad?quot; If there’s a kernel of truth in it, you want to speak to the kernel of truth. If there’s not a kernel of truth, you might want to say, quot;Well, you know, your mom and I see that very differently so I think it’s something that’s between the two of us, but what was that like for you when she said that? What was that like for you when dad said that about me?quot; Again, make the empathy about them, not about you. That’s your biggest tool in the tool chest.