Childress: Well thank you so much. I want to start by thanking California Southern University for this opportunity to talk today. The issues surrounding what has traditionally been defined as parental alienation are extremely tragic family circumstances and to the extent that this talk today might help lead to a resolution of those family tragedies it is much appreciated. Now today, I’m going to be talking about the theoretical underpinnings for a different approach to defining what parental alienation is than what has traditionally offered or described. I have limited time today, only about an hour and a half or so and then some questions period. I’m going to limit my discussion.
Today to just those theoretical underpinnings and the theoretical framework and structure for an attachmentbased model to understanding what’s traditionally been defined as parental alienation. I’ll be talking next week at a different seminar for about five hours where I will apply the model then to the diagnosis, to treatment, to the legal setting. I won’t be able to get into those issues today, but if you’re interested on more information along those lines I suggest I have my website, I have a lot of writings up on my website. I also have a blog that you can access and I recommend that. I’ve already got what I believe are some interesting posts up there and I anticipate getting some.
More very intriguing posts on my blog. To start today regarding an attachmentbased model to parental alienation, I’m going to start by talking about the current or the previous structure that was purposed for understanding parental alienation. The construct of parental alienation is essentially a child initiated cutoff in the child’s relationship with a normal range and affectionally available parent and this typically occurs as part of highconflict divorce. Now in the mid 1980s psychiatrist Richard Gardner proposed a model, he recognized a al phenomena having to do with what he called parental alienation and he proposed a model by which it would be identified. He.
Referred to it as Parental Alienation Syndrome. He discussed a set of anecdotal al indicators by which it could be recognized and he also went into describing how oftentimes in these situations there are false allegations of child abuse involved in this. His model however has generated a great deal of controversy. First because it moved beyond standard and accepted psychological principles and he proposed this new syndrome of al indicators that weren’t really based in any standard or established psychological constructs or principles. Then secondly by purposing that parental alienation could often involve false allegations of child abuse the whole dialogue and discussion with array, away from.
Parenting into child abuse allegations and those sorts of things. It’s generated a lot of controversy. It’s been about thirty years now and it’s still semiaccepted in the professional community. In my view, Gardner’s model of PAS while he did identify a al phenomenon, it represents a failed paradigm. It’s a failed legal paradigm because it fails to produce the changes necessary to solve the family problems. Families have to litigate whether or not there’s parental alienation. That can takes years and hundreds of thousands of dollars in attorney’s fees. If families can’t litigate, then it simply is unsolvable. It’s a failed theoretical paradigm because.
He too quickly abandoned established psychological constructs and principles and the rigor necessary to define what the al phenomenon is within those principles. By doing that, he’s constructed a model that’s founded on the shifting sands of anecdotal al indicators. When we try to leverage his model in the legal system or in the mental health system, the sands shift beneath our feet and the whole structure collapses. We’re not able to leverage the model because it’s not based in established psychological constructs. It’s a failed diagnostic model, because by going to anecdotal al indicators rather than established constructs it’s hard to determine whether or not parental alienation exists.
There’s according to the current or his model there are degrees of parental alienation. It could be mild or moderate or severe which can be very hard to prove within the legal system and there’s a lot of controversy within mental health as to whether it’s alienation or whether it’s really what’s called estrangement which is a problematic construct in itself. It’s a failed therapeutic paradigm because it does not tell us what to do about it. It’s a new thing. Parental alienation syndrome it doesn’t exist within any established constructs. Whereas if we base our understanding within standard, established and accepted psychological principles and constructs, then those constructs lead us to what the therapy is. We can then.
Difficult Personalities in a Child Custody Case Los Angeles Child Custody Attorney David Pisarra
Hey Guys David Pisarra here with MensFamilyLaw . Have you got a personality disordered spouse? Is that what we’re dealing with in a a child custody case? Listen up and let’s see what you’ve got. There’s three main problem personality types we deal with in divorce and child custody cases. There’s a manicdepressive and they kinda have an up down problem. they go from being really happy to really sad to really happy to really sad. They’re not that big of a deal when it comes to child custody, then we’ve got the narcissistic. the narcissistic personality is somebody who its all about them. No matter what you’re doing it’s about.
How it affects them. No matter what you’re saying, it’s how they look. No matter what you’re doing, it’s how they’re going to feel. The third most dangerous one that we deal with is the borderline personality. This is somebody that looks at you and in the beginning part of your relationship you probably were the prince charming, you probably were the best thing that ever happened. The most wonderful boyfriend, the most fantastic husband. and along came a child and the focus shifted and when the focus shifted, you suddenly became worthless, useless, the worst thing ever, horrible, the meanest, most inconsiderate, thoughtless, terrible, negligent, incompetent parent of all time. That’s the borderline.
Personality. You’re going from one extreme to the other. You go from Oh My God you’re the best thing ever to, horrible horrendous, terrible parent. The problem that we deal with is, Narcissistic and Borderline personalities can’t really be cured. and they’re very difficult to deal with when we get into court because they’re usually very convincing. They’re very manipulative. They’re very good at making the judge feel like quot;Well they’re just the most concerned parent ever, and you clearly are just a negligent human being.quot; So when we’re dealing with these as parties in a divorce, we frequently have to bring in a psychologist to try and explain what’s going on and we put each side through some testing to figure.
Out what’s really going on and with the personalities and who’s going to be the more stable and loving parent. And who’s really telling the truth. Because oftentimes the really controlling manipulative person is able to spin things so that it looks like you are the one that’s wrong. Even though they are the ones who are at fault. I hope that gives you a sort of a brief overview of what we’re dealing with here with the manic depressive personality, the narcissistic personality and the borderline. I’m not psychologist, so you probably gotta do some research on that but those are generally what we end up in family court, and those are the battles that we have to fight. If you’ve got other questions, you want to talk.
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