The “Catch 22″ of Child Custody (part 2)
After 11 years of marriage, one parent may be really angry, and is going to bring up a lot of irrelevant, highly subjective, unproven, and embarrassing information in an attempt to demean the the other parent. That is a pretty crappy thing to do, and does not bode well for the kids or the custody case. Out of all the the garbage that the parent wants to talk about, the only thing that is relevant is what is in the best interest of the children!
It is far better to take the high road. Stick to the recent facts, and track statutory criteria used by every judge in every custody determination. What is in the best interest of the children. Who is able and willing to meet the children’s needs. Who can offer stability and safety. Who encourages a relationship between the children and the other parent.
Litigants who can answer the above questions with a good answer tend to win child custody. Lawyers who use such questions as guidelines in arguing their client’s cases tend to win as well. That is not to say that highlighting inappropriate conduct on the other party’s part is not sometimes necessary, or that it should never be done.
Be prudent in the mud you sling, sling it only if it is relevant to your child custody case, and only if it is crucial for the judge to know in making a decision!
Kyle Roberts
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Filed Under Child Custody and Family LawThe “Catch 22″ of Child Custody (part 1)
Here is a quick fact about child custody and the court system. Pretty much common sense but sometimes overlooked. Everything you say in court is recorded, every affidavit, every argument in a motion, every exhibit submitted becomes part of the court record.
There are exceptions of course, juvenile proceedings, which are closed by law, and some cases can be sealed by judges order to protect various interests, privacy and or confidentiality.
Generally however, everything in your custody case is available for anyone to see. If for instance someone for whatever reason is interested in the sordid details between the two parties. It is a very simple thing to access these records (public).
Let’s say that you are getting separated, and can not agree on child custody. Both you and your ex want primary custody, or sole custody, and after lets say 11 years of being together you just flat out hate each other. You want to raise your children with very little visitation by your ex.
11 years is a lot of time to accumulate ammunition. what should you tell the judge about your ex. Most first impulses will be. 10 years ago she left the children alone to go to the store to buy more alcohol and her sister was arrested for drugs 9 years ago so I don’t want the children around them and so on.
You could really lay it all out for the court, and for everyone else who will read your file. Including possibly your children someday. There are lawyers who do recommend a massive character assassination. After all if your ex actually did these things, then you might have legitimate concerns. The ability to parent, substance-abuse issues, destructive behavior. I believe that dredging up a lifetime of baggage does neither of the parties any good!
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Filed Under Child Custody and Family LawChoosing a Family Law Attorney
Attorney selection is critical and in my opinion one of the most overlooked areas in child custody cases. Hiring the wrong attorney can cost you more than just money it can cost you your case. Many people use the wrong attorney what I mean by wrong is an attorney that does not specialize in family law focused on child custody they use the family attorney… you know the guy that does your will or handles the family business actions.
Another big mistake is to randomly pick an attorney out of the phone book without any research. Some attorney’s not all but some are great salesman and thats all they are, all talk. When it comes down to it they are lazy trust me I hired and fired two. Big mistake!
You need to find the best attorney you possibly can that will take your case. Find an attorney in your area that practices both criminal and family law. One that knows the judge and has practiced in front of said judge, and therefore has an upper hand so to speak when it comes to testimony, evidence and most importantly what the judge will view credible and relevant. You will also be looking for a family law attorney that is both aggressive and savvy.
Before you meet with your selection of attorney’s that meet the criteria listed above you are going to create a list of questions. Try and make sure that you have all of your the facts and questions in order an example of some questions you might pose are. How many child custody cases have handled in the past year. Of those cases how many have you one or lost. What do believe was the reason for said losses. Would it be alright if I helped with the case as in gathering information, and doing some legwork. Have you handled mostly moms or dads etc…etc…
If the family law attorney is not open to your participation in the case and the reason for his losses are blamed all on the past client and the attorney accepts no responsibility for the loss. The attorney is probably not being completely honest and is just looking to make a buck. Some parents just hire an attorney any attorney and just leave everything up to them. Never ever do that! That is the quickest road to failure, you will need to actively participate-remember it is your life and you and only you know all the reasons why you believe that you deserve the amount of child custody you are seeking.
Ok that is the end of this post. I again would like to invite you to look at my recommendations. I used these guides myself to structure my child custody case.
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Child Custody in The Beginning
How did you get here?
You may have been in a relationship with the other parent, or you may have been married to the other parent. It is important for you to understand how you got to the point of needing to create a child custody agreement. The reason it is important to know how you got to this point, is that it may be used against you in your custody case. Are you an alcoholic or do you use other substances? Or did you decide to leave your partner for those reasons (example)?
Sit down and make a list of the things that have happened to bring you to this point. This is very important, include the reasons the other parent has expressed to you as to why you have seperated. Whether you you believe the other parent is not relevant. What is relevant is to whether or not a judge finds those reasons relevant or credible. You will come back to your list later on to help you outline your goals and to help with your strategy to obtain child custody.
Try to be as honest as you can even if it is negative towards yourself. This will give you and idea of areas you choose to improve to help with your child custody case.
Ok, this is my first real post and my first blog I have alot more to share including personal experiences and strategy. So stay tuned until next time, I would also like to point you to my personal recomendations for additional information that I found was very helpful in my pursut of child custody they are located in the left sidebar.
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Filed Under Child Custody and Family LawA Parent’s Guide to Child Custody (family law)
Welcome Parent’s,
I want to welcome you to childcustodyguide.com. I put this site together to help any parent, grandparent on there quest to either gain custody or assist in pursuit of child custody in the family law arena.
Child custody can be a long drawn out process, I dont know your particular situation but I have found that it is not easy and never will be. I would like to invite you to look at my recommendations.
First place to start is right here. click here
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